Biz works in flow. Clients flow in & out. Same w/ $. If u are in a rut – cool! Next turn is an upturn. Don’t be bummed – be excited! (This was my twitter post today that inspired this newsletter)

Hey, folks! I am not sure if you notice, BUT life and biz is all about flow.

* What goes up must come down.

* We must let go of something of a lower nature to get something of a higher nature.

* Life is a circle. What seems like the end may actually be the beginning.

Choose any of the above to remind yourself that nothing moves in one direction continuously. Everything needs waves, flow, and rest. When I embraced the knowledge of what I call the “exodus” – many clients leaving at once or cash flow taking a quick shift – everything changed for me. I used to think what am I doing wrong? Why is this all happening at once? How do I save this?

Now, I realize… you don’t need to save everyone and everything. The flow is meant to be. Clients leave to make space for new more ideal clients. Income evaporates to create the opening for a renewed more abundant amount from a source more in alignment with your heart. Opportunities disappear because they would eventually take too much of your time or energy for little payoff. People fade away because they were not holding your dreams for you. Their fear made your fear deeper.

I know some of you are feeling this; I have felt it and still do at times. WHY the exodus of money, funds, people, opportunities? Just take a moment and pause. Get clear.

What is around the corner? What new, fresh, inspiring opportunity is present? What opening is being formed to be filled with more money and more life? What may feel like sacrifice now is the formation of future opportunity.

Let it go. Let it flow. What may seem like the end is really just the beginning.

I had a need to be right for a long time. Maybe about 30 years – it kept me in a job I hated, my max earning was about $50k, I had no free time, and had created a situation where I could hardly make any of my own decisions. It became clear to me that being right no longer served me. I went as far as to have the belief that I wasn’t really interested in seeking therapy or coaching. Period. I realize I was deeply afraid they might make me “wrong”.

Some people will get tired of it. They will see that holding on to assumptions, ideas, and the need to be right will not get them to their desired life. Thank God I got sick and tired and was willing to let go. Honestly, the number one reason I see entrepreneurs struggle, suffer, and often quit is holding on to the need to be right.

You cannot have a new life, more business, or growth without being willing to stretch and be called out on the BS. I have heard many mentors say it to me over the last four years, but I think it was Ali Brown that I first heard say, “Do you wanna be right or do you wanna be rich?” You can’t hold onto both desires. Growing a business, changing your life, getting clients, and making money take sacrifice.

Sacrifice is doing something you have never done to get something you have never had.

You can’t sacrifice AND need to hold onto to being right, so here’s my list of most frequently done things to sabotage your success and not make more money, help more people, and have an impact because you need to be right list! Make sure you clean this list up and move into openness, willingness, and readiness to CHANGE!

1) YES, BUT. Just remove it from your vocabulary. I have my private clients take improv class, because the #1 rule of improv is YES! Start changing the Yes, but to YES, YES! Yes, but will keep you stuck in your excuses around time, money, and knowledge.

REFRAME: YES! YES! Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly to start with!

2) I QUIT. This is always the easiest answer. It can be quick and it gets you out of pain – fast! But, guess what? Nothing changes…

REFRAME: I get exactly what I need when I need it. Is quitting going to move me closer to my dreams?

3) I DIDN’T GET WHAT I NEEDED. Blame is evil. I know – I did it. It makes us feel better when it isn’t out fault. But again, it doesn’t move us forward or change our outcomes.

REFRAME: I am 100% responsible for everything that happens – good, bad or in between.

4) THERE ISN’T ENOUGH (Time, Money, Resources, Help). When we are working from lack we get lack.

REFRAME: Everything I need is already present. And there is more than enough.

5) THAT HURT MY FEELINGS or I DON’T LIKE HOW THAT MADE ME FEEL. Feelings are choices, so when we choose hurt or negativity we then send that energy out into a ripple effect through the world.

REFRAME: I choose how I feel about everything. No one can make me feel anything. That is my choice. So, if I am offended the offense is within me.

6) NOT LISTENING. Many of you are working with coaches or in programs, but not willing to really do what is required of you or fully listen to their guidance.

REFRAME: I have chosen this person or this path for a reason and I am willing to do what is required even if I don’t understand how or it might make me wrong.

When we step up to self-responsibility in all we do, we eliminate the need to be right. We eliminate the fear of sacrifice. To truly help more people you have to be willing to help yourself. To be the change in the world, you have to change. And it starts with being ok with letting go. If we can let go of being right and not care who gets the credit then we can change the world over and over and over again.

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Something that many coaches, healers and other helping professionals have a hard time wrapping their mind around is the fact that there really is no competition. There just isn’t. I don’t have any and I don’t think about it.

Let me explain what I mean…

I’m not a horse race person, but I’ve seen one or two. All the horses wear blinders. They are little flaps that go beside their eyes. They do that because the minute a horse looks at the horse beside them, it slows down.

In this same way you must run your own race in business. There are a lot of people who are overwhelmed, under-performing, under-implementing, and not doing what they need to do to grow their business because they are so engrossed in all of the newsletters and ezines and emails that are coming through their inbox making them feel “less than” magnificent.

Stop basing your value and your success on what’s coming into your inbox. Shut it down, put it in a filter, and go build your business. Go run your own race. Go tell people about your story, share your message, and share your movement.

The minute you begin to compare yourself to others, or you look to others for validation, it will slow you down and the phone will stop ringing.

People always want to know how to start with nothing and go to a booming business with multiple programs and affiliates. People want to know how to get traffic to their site and more people in the door.

The answer that no one wants to hear is that there is no magic pill! The way to build a successful, sustainable business is to start talking to one person, and then you talk to two people, and then you talk to those people about how they can talk to someone.

It’s the same basic process whether your focus is online or offline. About 90% of the work I do is virtual, but when you’re getting started, consider using what you have in your immediate vicinity. Look to your town or your community. Regardless of where your business is or whether it is primarily online or offline, your approach must be based around connecting with more and more people.

I had a private client once who asked, “How do you get joint ventures and affiliate partners?” I said to her, “The same way you make friends.”

Approach affiliate opportunities and joint ventures the same way you live your life. Just reach out to people. When you find yourself saying, “Gosh, there’s something about that person that resonates for me,” connect with them.

So many people try to put more mystery into this than there needs to be. Although it isn’t complicated, you do have to put the connection time in. Nothing gets built offline or online unless you take the time, the energy, and the commitment to make connection after connection after connection.

The wonderful quote, “Be more interested than interesting” is relevant to this. The worst thing in the world is to do when making connections or partaking in any kind of marketing activities like social media is to say something like, “Hi, I’m Suzanne! Buy my stuff!” Nobody cares!

You must walk into a business networking, marketing, or social media situation the same way you walk into a real party. Introduce yourself, talk with people, ask people about commonalities.

Walk into every room (or virtual event, or social media) like it’s your party. What would you do if it were your party? You would thank people for coming. You would ask them how they are. You would see what you could do for them. You would be more interested than interesting.

I’d like to invite you to learn how to help more people, make more money and enjoy more freedom with the free 5-day mini course, “Awakening Your Authentic Entrepreneur,” at http://www.helpmorepeople.com/minicourse.htm

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